Define Friendship

August 31, 2010
Friendship is defined a personal relationship shared between each friend for the welfare of one another, in other words, it is the relationship of trust, faith and concern for each others feelings. It is a relationship of mutual caring and intimacy among one another."

So, knowing just the smallest definition of what that one word means, in laymen terms, what does it mean to you? Really think about it and then take a look around you. Look at the people you work with, at your neighbors, at school buddies, and even the people you talk to on-line.

Out of all those people you come into contact with on a daily basis, who among them fits the above definition? Lets go beyond that and then ask: Who, of my "friends" do I really trust? Do I really trust that person or persons? Dare I share myself?

"Friendship is all about how much you care and understand each other. It is a pure relationship, which would make your friend smile, feel good as to how much you love him and care for him. It is all about talking, listening and building up a strong relationship loyalty among each other."

Recently someone here on Goodreads had a terrible experience with a friend. They met this past May, they chatted and developed a bond, a friendship. They may have shared fascinating personal facts about themselves that no one else knows, or they may have kept it on a light non-personal level but whichever way they chose to take it, something went wrong. Really wrong.

"There are some friendships which might end with unresolved conflicts and tiffs which means that these type of relationship were not so strong that could hold on their own in adversity and bad times. Friendship is not about merry-making and fun it involves equal loyalty from both the partners." (thank you ezine articles)

ONE of those partners obviously didn't take the time to understand friendship. It involves equal loyalty from both...One of those partners took a pretty bad turn and that bond was broken, very broken and it's one I don't think will ever be repaired. IN fact, I know it won't be. The other person turned that friendship ugly by becoming a stalker and that person harassed the prior friend, or how would you call this? Harassed the ex-friend sounds better and sent that person HATE emails, from several different email accounts as the injured party was instructed to block all incoming mail from the ex-friend. Finally it got to the point that, lets call the injured friend Fred...Fred had to delete his email account all together because he had no way of knowing which new email address would be invented by the other person to send him emails. These were not nice emails, they were full of hurtful statements that had no business reaching his eyes...He has a sweet soul and deserved better.

Now, lets go one step further...Fred's ex-friend then began sending emails to Fred's Goodreads Friends! In the email, the same one copied over, ex-friend made some pretty bold statements and asked the friends to turn their backs on Fred. Lies were made up and then this hot mess was carried to a few Yahoo Groups and the note was spread there as well. Do you know the damage done to Fred over this? Physically no, ex-friend can't get to Fred, luckily he never shared his real physical address with said ex-friend but still. The emotional damage this person caused over a matter of a week? It was horrendous to watch.

I silently cried for Fred and no...I don't really know him, and I may never meet him face to face, but I know enough about him that he didn't deserve that betrayal by a person calling them-self his best friend. Slowly, I will work on becoming a true friend to Fred because he is someone I want to know better. And if we are meant to be friends, good for us.

"It should be understood that not all friends are best friends. One might come across numerous number of friends in his life but there are very few who will be their during your ups and down."

"... a best friend from among your friends is the hardest task to do..."

In life, I think I've had a handful of "best friends." How many have you had or do have? I have a few and I consider myself so very lucky to have them...(and yes you know who you are.)

"A true friendship does not consist of a huge number of friends you keep but it is valued by its worth and capability to hold you and stand by you in all phases of life."

So, in short...When you do come across someone you feel would fit that bill...don't be afraid to take that step to form that bond, that friendship...just be cautious and you'll know when that time is right to take it up a level. A true friend will never try to take your life over or away...

And always remember: A friend is someone who bails you out of jail. A true friend is in jail with you.
 

Can Anyone Please Add Another?

June 25, 2010
24 Hours to a day please? I'm asking nicely. Ever since moving back to Denver I have become so unbelievably busy it's silly. I went from living in Tucson and being able to write almost all the time to living in downtown Denver and begging for an hour to write any of the time. Oh, I'm not complaining, I'm just saying. I mean, in Tucson I didn't work outside of my home so I had loads of time to do what I love. I was working on a huge novel, well, I guess it'd be a series actually. A tota...
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Rver of Tears Update

May 23, 2010
 Ever since I published River of Tears last August, I've been wanting to pull it and revise it. If you've read my past blogs about my editing issues with it, you'll understand what happened and why and all that fun stuff.

I've been elated with the reviews the story is getting, and I'm so very pleased with how it's being reviewed among the readers all over. However, because of the known issues I had with editing and my unease with pushing the book as it deserves to be pushed and marketed, I'm ...
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The story behind Tony & Ryan

May 20, 2010
Tony & Ryan are two characters from a series I've been working on for more years than I care to say. For the longest time I had a heck of a time connecting with Ryan, until I explored his hidden side. He's 1 of 4 brothers. He's an orphan. He's an undercover agent on the run.  
 
I tried for years to get inside his head for the series. He played hide and seek with me for a long time to the point that I almost took him out of the story all together. Then Jeff challenged me to delve into ...

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Just wanted to share with all

February 23, 2010

This post came as a surprise to me from Amy J today and I wanted to share this with you. Her words about my book actually brought tears to my eyes. I had no idea she was going to post this. 
 
 

Today I wanted to start a discussion and get some thoughts from other readers.  When you are cruising around your book blogs, are you more likely to buy books from authors you have heard about, or do you like to find books by authors that you have never heard of before? 

For me, I like to find new a...


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A Great Start to a New Year

February 5, 2010

 

When the “ball” dropped bringing in the New Year I prayed it would be a better year for all of us. I remember where I was when I thought this. I was laying in bed, propped up with three comfy pillows with my covers snuggling around me. I had the T.V. on and my ever loving pen and notebook on my writing tray sitting on top of me. I like to bring the new year in writing. It’s just something I do.  

Well, I was there, it was midnight, and my phone started going off the wall, beeping an...


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Happy New Year!!!

January 4, 2010

We made it to see another decade. 2010.

Friends and Family 

When I was a senior in high school the world was supposed to end or so I was told when I was in 8th grade. Imagine carrying that kind of fear inside you for four long years. I mean I just started discovering boys and I was hearing that I’d only have four years left to really discover them. Well, alright then. Discover them I would! I looked forward to entering high school. Lots and lots of new boys from other neighborhoods...


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INDI AUTHORS and BOOK REVIEWS

November 27, 2009

I wanted to take some time and talk about INDI authors, (Independent) and Book Reviews, and why some people are so afraid to pick a book up that's been self-published. Then question why some book reviewers are so afraid to review self-published books?  

Granted, I've only been in this world a short time, since this past August if you want to get technical and I have seen and read so much on this very topic that I can recite it in my sleep. Before I considered myself a writer, I was a...


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A Life's Journey with River of Tears

November 16, 2009

I truly believe the saying that you are your own worst critic.  

If you've been reading my blogs in order you'll know that the last paragraph I wrote from the prior blog titled: A Life's Journey…River of Tears. You'll know it said:

My story was as good as I could get it. I was ready to share it for real this time. I was proud of it and I wanted people to read this story. I had a smile that warmed my heart. I did the best I could do. It was time to do something about it. 

And I did…...


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My Journey

October 27, 2009

I've gotten behind here, I owe my blog a continuance of “My Journey”, and I've every intention of doing just that. I looked back and realized that I'm a few weeks overdue and I felt as if I not only cheated myself, but my friends (well those who read my blabbering's anyway) and my blog too. I mean, it's an interesting journey, through my eyes anyway, and I want to share that with everyone.

However, many changes found their way into my life and they weren't happy or good c...


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